Posts Tagged ‘myspace

26
Apr
07

this is not a real post

Nathan Fillion in Drive

I just had to take a moment to mourn the loss of Drive before it even had a chance to get started.

I admit I only started watching it because it stars Captain Mal, but I am now hooked, which is of course Fox’s cue to cancel it. Stupid Fox. Why don’t they want me to see Nathan Fillion on TV? You can catch the episodes on Myspace for now – commercial free even.

Real post coming soon! I have 8 zillion (or thereabouts) things I want to write about.

15
Mar
07

conclusion

I eventually used Myspace’s e-mail feature to tell myspace boy that I wasn’t interested in going out with him again. He had IM’ed me while I was on my lunch break at work to ask me out, but had logged off by the time I got back. I said I was sorry but I just didn’t feel like I would be able to see him as more than a friend. He replied eventually very courteously, so that was the end of that. I hate rejecting people almost as much as I hate getting rejected myself – but in this case my biggest regret was that I led him to believe at the time of the date that I would be interested in another when it really wasn’t true. I’m obviously somewhat rusty since this was only the second guy I’d gone out with since I broke up with the FF (former fiance), but hopefully time will improve my dating skills.

Question: what’s the best way to end a date if you know you aren’t interested? I’m leaning toward telling him to call me and then breaking the news later if he does call…

23
Feb
07

Next, please

Myspace boy and I finally met on Wednesday night at the local big chain bookstore. Let me just say, it’s not going to work. He however seems smitten, I’ve gotten a mySpace message and 3 text messages on my cell phone from him since then. I specifically requested that he use my real e-mail address and he didn’t, and I also have not received an actual phone call. I have to let him down but I haven’t quite decided on the best method.

This was a classic case of good IM’er = bad conversationalist. With IM you are generally forced to pause and allow the other person a chance to respond… this guy did not shut up. I am a reasonably good conversationalist even if you take into account my usual initial shyness, but I’m pretty sure I got in one word for his ten. Or twenty. During the course of the evening he described himself variously as a ‘beta male,’ a ‘fashionisto,’ and ‘in touch with his feminine side.’ None of these things are bad necessarily, but I don’t know if I understand the logic of trying to impress a girl with them.

He also flattered me continuously. Looks, intelligence, clothing choice, you name it. Normally one would think this was a good thing, but he never gave me a chance to demonstrate any of my personality… and when I tried to make playful jokes (teasing him or whatever) he would get all apologetic.

MB: (on the phone before we met) Can we meet a little earlier? I got finished sooner than I thought I would, and I knew you weren’t doing anything…

SGG: (archly) and just how do you know that?

MB: Oh, I’m sorry, I really didn’t mean to imply anything, I’m sorry for assuming, etc. etc. for like five minutes.

SGG: I’m just kidding, really, it’s ok. I was just watching American Idol.

MB: Oh, I knew that

SGG: ?

So, he really didn’t know me at all, didn’t understand my personality, but yet he continued to flatter me throughout the night. I like a compliment as much as the next girl, but I’m not silly enough to have my head turned by empty flattery, in fact feel rather insulted by it.

Also? I was hoping he would look better than his picture… but not so much. To be perfectly honest I really wasn’t attracted to him at all.

So, to recap: no physical chemistry, no mental rapport, and I’m not at all impressed by his job. Sigh.

Next?

17
Feb
07

What just happened here?

I think I may possibly have a date with myspace boy. That is, he asked me to meet him for coffee and I told him yes. I’m not totally sure we’re on the same page, but what can it hurt? I claimed to be busy all weekend (mostly true), so we are supposed to set up a time to meet next week. I’m going to suggest a coffee place that is not the one I usually frequent, the better to reduce the chance of stalkage if things don’t go as I would like.

I feel kind of like a hypocrite – I’ve been encouraging my female friends to pursue online dating and criticizing guys who e-mail or IM forever and never quite make it to that next step, but now that someone has actually stepped and asked me out I’m freaking out a little bit. He has come on kind of strong and has made no secret of the fact that he has a healthy love of the physical side of relationships, which is all well and good, but he won’t be getting that from me for a good long time, if ever. I may be a modern woman, but that is a step I am not willing to take unless there is real commitment and trust involved. I’m not one for casual relationships, which I have tried to make clear on all my profiles.

Oh well, if that’s what he’s after he’ll just move on when he doesn’t get it, and I’ll start auditioning the the next prospect. A nice looking Phd. candidate sent me an icebreaker on yahoo today…

07
Feb
07

prospect update

Everyone on yahoo is boring. The one guy I have been corresponding with the most appears to have no sense of humor, and spends his free time golfing. I’m sure it makes him happy, but I have no interest at all in the sport – if you can call it that. I do have friends who enjoy it… but seriously.

Imagine you are a guy (if you are a guy already, then this will be easier), and you find a cute girl on a dating website, you think you might be a good fit, and the only way you have to convince her to talk to you or go out with you is to send her a really good e-mail. What might you do? How will you entice this vision of loveliness? Personally, I would think you would want to try and capture her interest in some fashion – ask her about her life, comment on the aspects of her profile that drew you to her, maybe even tell an interesting story.

Wait! I have it! The perfect thing! I don’t know why all men don’t know this, they could have the smart, funny, interesting women of the world in the palms of their hands. What is this wonderful secret? The one thing guaranteed to make any woman swoon? That’s right! They should be talking about golf. Or, barring that, football. People, I think I’ve found my kryptonite.

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05
Feb
07

progress

Heard back from myspace boy this morning. It’s kind of interesting to me that the week I decide to pursue online dating is the week that I hear from someone out of the blue online… though he actually hasn’t specifically used the ‘d’ word, but he gave me lots of compliments, both on my profile and my pictures. My myspace profile only says I am looking for friendship, I wonder if I should change it to say dating/relationship also? I hadn’t really considered it as a dating tool before now…

I do wish myspace boy were more my type… he isn’t bad, and he dresses well, but there is just something odd about his pictures. He does e-mail really really well though. I think I’m over-thinking this. Must stop thinking!

I believe I will meditate on the prospect of Henry from Ugly Betty suddenly becoming real and popping into my existence to sweep me off my feet with his nerdly and adorable ways.

04
Feb
07

here we go

I am generally a shy person. I have never, say, met a guy in a bar. Everyone I have ever gone out with has been someone I met, spent time with as a friend, and then ended up dating. I am old fashioned enough to want to be pursued, and while I know how to flirt, I feel uncomfortable being the one to come on to a guy or ask him out. So, in a way, online dating takes some of that nervousness away. I don’t really mind getting rejected by a guy I’ve never actually seen in person. If I send him an e-mail or a little icebreaker message, and he doesn’t reply, it’s not the end of the world. In fact, online dating may just be the introverts salvation in this crazy world of trying to find a mate.

Continue reading ‘here we go’




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